I do feel like the Lord prompted me to post about singleness earlier this week. I certainly think it struck a chord with many women. My thoughts and my writing were simple, but I am glad many of you were encouraged. I read through each comment twice. I feel a real bond with you single ladies that is only understood by women who have been there. As I read through the comments, I just wanted to sit down with you and eat some brownies and talk. I have prayed for you this week!
I have been thinking this week..................perhaps it is harder to be single for women than for men? Men get to initiate the relationship. I often times felt "helpless." There was nothing I could do about my singleness. Then, that brought me to the reality that GOD IS THE MATCHMAKER. I just had to work on being the right woman.
I didn't mention in my earlier post that I was a bridesmaid in nine weddings while I was single. I loved each one, but I wondered when my day would come.
I also decided, in my single days, that renting a good movie, getting a pizza and some cookie dough was better than being on a date I didn't really want to be on.
There is a little book that I used to enjoy called, "How We Met." It tells about unusual meetings that ended in marriage. I recall one of the women met her husband when he parachuted from an airplane and landed in her yard on "accident." I also was encouraged by a song sung by Greg Long called, "In the Waiting."
By the way, I met Steve in my church singles Sunday School class.
I will write more on this subject in the near future.
I have been thinking this week..................perhaps it is harder to be single for women than for men? Men get to initiate the relationship. I often times felt "helpless." There was nothing I could do about my singleness. Then, that brought me to the reality that GOD IS THE MATCHMAKER. I just had to work on being the right woman.
I didn't mention in my earlier post that I was a bridesmaid in nine weddings while I was single. I loved each one, but I wondered when my day would come.
I also decided, in my single days, that renting a good movie, getting a pizza and some cookie dough was better than being on a date I didn't really want to be on.
There is a little book that I used to enjoy called, "How We Met." It tells about unusual meetings that ended in marriage. I recall one of the women met her husband when he parachuted from an airplane and landed in her yard on "accident." I also was encouraged by a song sung by Greg Long called, "In the Waiting."
By the way, I met Steve in my church singles Sunday School class.
I will write more on this subject in the near future.
Comments
I read your post earlier in the week, and have been thinking about it all week. Thank you for your encouragement. This post was great timing as well! I have been hearing a lot lately from one of my friends that I am not doing enough to "find" a relationship, and that God will not just bring someone to me. I appreciate your post, and am going to look for that book - it is just what I need to hear this week.
God Bless You!
Over the years, I have made tweaks to the list and have often looked back to those first attempts and laughed.
I'm currently 24. Still have a list. Right now I'm pretty content with my singleness, but about two years ago I was really struggling.
In my dreams, I had always thought I would be married right out of college. As graduation approached, I became more and more upset and sought my mentor for some guidance. She gave me some of the best advice. Something that you touched on.
She encouraged me to read over my list of qualities that I was looking for in a mate and envision him. That wasn't hard at all! Then she told me to imagine that I was that mate and write down the qualities that HE would be looking for in a mate.
I found myself with a list of areas to work on. Who knows, Mr. Perfect-for-me may not be here because God isn't through with ME yet.
Thanks again for sharing your heart! I look forward to reading more singleness posts in the future.
P.S. I am now thinking about moving near a small airport in hopes of one day finding a handsome, wayward parachuter in my backyard. :-)
Anyway, that was 6 years ago, and I never thought it would happen to me.
I prayed and had a list too...and my husband met everything on MY list too!
Came over from Kelly's blog. Thank you so much for the encouragement on singleness. I'm 32 and still single. Lately, it's been really hard, because the one desire I have is to be a wife...to be able to share my life with someone. I've been on many blind dates, but nothing pans out. I've done the Lady in Waiting devotional and yes, it's great! Anyways, I could go on and on, but I really just wanted to say I would appreciate your prayers!
Thanks!
I can relate to your story in so many ways. I am 21 and about to be in my 7th wedding. I have never been in a relationship. I have always had the mind set that God will send me the right man for me in His timing but the longer I wait the more impatient I get.
I too have a long list of things I want in a guy and everytime I tell someone about it they just laugh. It makes me wonder if I do set my standards too high.
Anyways, these 2 post on singleness really blessed my heart and I thank you so much for sharing your story. So many of us out here need to hear stories like yours. Thanks again!